The social construct of man.
Femininity is assigned to women and masculinity to man. We are socially constructed to maintain ourselves within these banners. This is irregardless of sexuality. From wiki “While the defining characteristics of femininity are not universally identical, some patterns exist: gentleness, empathy, sensitivity, caring, sweetness, compassion, tolerance, nurturance, deference, and succorance are traits that have traditionally been cited as feminine.“
Do not men have the same social right to these traits? How about any boundaries in expression? In fashion a man wearing pink has been social constructed to open a debate any time a man wears pink. Is he confident in his sexuality? Is he gay? It seems now even attractive to many women that a man love nature, the birds and the flowers. But what about when it comes to art? If a man uses pink and purple to paint a flower is he now feminine or gay?
I feel men are just as emotional as women and feel just as much, but have been constructed by society for such a long period time that fear regulates that behavior. I say let men be men and women be women. Does this mean that men have to dress like men and act like men? It means that men should know they are men and are not bound to these limits.
If a man wants to paint butterflies or write poetry, or knit or learn yoga, they should, because they are men, they can do this and need not flinch, nor make excuses. Because it is character that defines us outside of sexual preferences and neither a woman or a man in their purest form has any character flaws. Styles, tastes and color choices have absolutely nothing to do for character but reflect the power and true confidence of a man, or a woman if the case may be as these same principles apply to women.
Tux the Butterfly fine digital art by Rybird. For more like this see the Art Flies Collection at Dabble Bird HERE
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Spirituality must be one of the most misunderstood phenomenons as expected since everyone's path to spirituality seems unique to them. However, the end result appears to be the same once a person has reached this higher plane of thinking, It is a spiritual awakening,which I will explain more about later. When I arrived at this higher plane of thinking, I discovered it was nothing I achieved by direct will, but it was rather something that happened, It happened, I found out later, to internal events that took place and I found that continued growth results not from direct effort, but rather from doing the right thing, then as a result of that, problems become non existent. After I did reach this 4th dimension, the spiritual awakening, I found I can related to other peoples who have experienced this and they claim to relate to mine. And I can relate to those that have not had this experience, even though they, not having a spiritual awakening cannot relate to my experience. Thus I feel that when sharing anything about spirituality, I should only share my own personal experience as my experience is my truth and people are also more receptive to it. Removing the “you”, “they”, and “we” out of the story makes sharing comfortable and refrains from judging. Either the person that is inquiring will identify or not, and they can take away some experience that is useful and not have to worry about the rest. It is for this reason that spiritual advice is never offered, only my experience shared when approached. continued below...
I have learned the way many people think does not apply to me and I should refrain from correcting them as I cannot determine nor decide if a different way works for them. The never give up, you can win, you can do anything you want believe system did not work for me. I followed that path into insanity and nearly death as I did achieve everything I wanted through sheer willpower and determination.....so I thought. I was in a total delusion, never realizing that I had never been in control, I was just manipulating reality to suit me and me to suit reality, a type of rationalization, and thus I never was growing or changing. I felt at times that it was my job to make the world a better place and my life would not be of value if I didn't at least try. Conquering battles, never giving up, always winning was my way. And I never reached enlightenment until I abandoned these ideas.
Along the way people tried to share their enlightenment. It was hard for them to tell me what it was, yet people tried and I thought I knew what it was and I wanted it. But I didn't want to do anything for it. I found later that there was nothing that I could do for it. I could not change the path I was on and the harder I tried to change it, the more futile and desperate it became. Finally it was too much, yes it was more than I could take and now I was going to die. I seemed to lose all hope and at the time I was sure I had no hope, and I did give up. I did not care if I lived, if I died, or if I was going to Heaven or Hell or just ceasing to exist. This is when it happened, It was my point of hopelessness, my point of surrender, but I would not realize it until later, I knew there was a change, but what the changes would be were revealed to me later. My experience is that more is always revealed later about the moment I am in. continued below
I ran into a big problem. It's the ice cream. I have three big bowls, well, one is big, then I have a big big bowl and a big big big bowl. So, I had a big bowl of ice cream, but I wanted a big big bowl. But the big big bowl was dirty. I could have gotten the big big big bowl, but that bowl is too big. So I just got the big bowl.
Now I still want ice cream but now both the big big bowl and the big bowl are dirty. So now if I want more ice cream I have to get the big big big bowl. But then that is too much ice cream....
See? I have a big big big problem!
Update. Now the big bowl, the big big bowl and the big big bowl are all dirty. But I am happy. :)
“ Music has the power not only to sedate but to summon our demons. Especially long-suppressed emotions, memories and associations. It has been said (by playwright William Congreve) that "music has charms to soothe the savage breast." (Sometimes this is misattributed to William Shakespeare and commonly misquoted as "music soothes the savage beast.")
There is much truth to this. Music, like movies or a good book, temporarily takes us far away from our ordinary troubles and tribulations, transporting us to a different time or another world. It can provide the solace of companionship for the lonely, lessen our sense of existential isolation and convey compassion to the suffering soul. The "blues" is but one example of how listening to music created out of someone else's suffering--unrequited love, loss, trouble, bad luck--helps make us feel less alienated and alone in our problems. Misery, as the saying goes, loves company. When we hear such tragic tales and the sorrow they engender, whether in folk,country, R&B, standards, rap or rock music, we relate to the performer and feel ourselves to be part of the herd, tribe, the collective, the archetypal, the universal, the human family. For who among us has not felt the angst and confusion of adolescence, the sting of love lost or unreciprocated at some time? So listening to such sounds soothes our souls. When we're feeling sad or down, discouraged and disheartened, music can raise our spirits, be uplifting, inspirational and energizing. Music makes us want to dance, in a joyous, spontaneous expression of the primal life force. It can gently lull us to sleep (lullaby). Or it can make us want to cry or laugh. And, sometimes, music makes us feel angry. When, for example, Bob Dylan wrote, played and sang protest songs like "Masters of War" and " A Hard Rain's A-Gonna Fall," we felt his personal anger and that he was expressing or channelling our own collective rage. This is what differentiates true art from self-indulgent pretension; real music from cacophony or mere commercialism. The best music comes from and most purely expresses personal experiences, but arises and speaks also to what Jung called the "collective unconscious." It taps directly into our psyche at the deepest possible level and addresses archetypal and existential concerns about the human condition, concerns and experiences we all share. And it connects us intimately to each other.” From Why We Love Music—and Freud Despised It by Stephen A. Diamond Ph.D. at :
Why are so many guitarists jokes one liners? A - So the rest of the band can understand them.:)
Quaver, one-eighth musical note. From the Dimensions collection at Dabble Bird. http://www.dabblebird.com/dimensions.html
Someone asked, ":Do you believe in life after death?" What do I think?
By the very definition "death" is the end of life, so no, if one does die, there cannot be life. That, is death!
But the bible says thou shall not perish but have everlasting life. But in what form? One thing seems certain, which is the brain and our thoughts, imagination, feelings and memories won't continue to exist when the brain dies.
That spark of life will be there perhaps in one form or another. I say spark of life as being of the soul as perhaps the soul is not completely understood.
Will we be able to experience life as we understood it again? That's the real question I think most people ask.
I do not know. It seems to be beyond the understanding of the human mind to comprehend life without the mind. Think about that, How can we experience what our mind experiences, without the mind How can the mind comprehend what life would be like if it, “the mind” doesn't' exist. It's impossible to understand. But it doesn't mean we won't have a soul or a life, it's just meant it is now impossible to understand using our own mind.
This is why we have faith. Because we have no choice but to.
But if we were to cease to exist, as in death, at any point, and no longer continue in any form or shape, then what would be the point of existing in the first place?
So, I don't believe in life after death, but I do believe in life after life.
Rybird May 14, 2017
First I contemplate the maturing transmission of holistic energy. Yes the isomorphic resonance of an interstellar awakening of being that will tap into the quantum matrix itself. Yes, embellish the new age aura of nonsensical whizdom.
And now the story.
Our Friend, having a near death experience, contemplates his life of sin and anxiously awaits his fate in the next world.
An escort meets him at the boundary of hereafter and with a welcoming smile says, “You’re not ready yet friend; you still have another chance. But you’ll return soon, so let me show you what goes on here on the other side.”
Together they enter a great hall where a long candle-lit banquet table is laden with bowls of steaming, fragrant soups, succulent roasts, perfectly cooked vegetables, aromatic loaves of bread, the finest of wines, fruits of every kind, and a dazzling array of cakes and pies. Diners fill every chair, but shockingly, amid luxurious bounty, the scene is one of pain and anguish. Skeletal forms are twisted and moaning in starvation, with barely the strength to strike at each other with their spoons.
Looking closer, our Friend sees that all spoons have long handles—longer than the diners’ arms; too long for the diners to feed themselves. “So this is Hell,” gasps our Friend. “Anger and misery amid abundance. Where’s the Devil?” “Evil resides in the hearts of men,” says Escort, “But, come, let me show you something else.”
The two enter another great hall. And in that hall there is another long, candle-lit banquet table, covered with a similar incredible spread of delicious foods, drinks and sweets. Here the sounds of laughter, chatter and song fill the hall while healthy and happy diners are enjoying the company and the bounty before them.
They, too, have long spoons, but they are feeding each other. “And this,“ the Escort tells our Friend, “is heaven.”
I heard that on Christian radio driving home from work almost twenty years ago. It made perfect sense then and and it still does now. Rybird
Few birds are happier in the company of man than the house sparrow, and for much of the year it is rare to find them far from human habitations. Sparrows are very adaptable, they have been found living and breeding 2000ft underground in a coalmine; and others have been recorded living their whole lives inside warehouses. They have even swam under water in some instances to escape predators. They are quick to learn new feeding habits, soon adapting to taking food from suspended nut feeders, a habit first noted in the late 1960s. They are very sociable birds, often nesting in colonies, and most pairs will try and raise at least two and often three broods a year. But The population of sparrows has been declining, as there is... continued below
ess food for them, because of fewer gardens. They are now on the threatened birds’ list in many parts of the world. Possible explanations for the decline include modern agricultural practices that leave less waste grain in the fields as well as the increased use of pesticides in urban gardens. While the oldest living age of a sparrow is recorded at over 13 years old, the survival rate for the young of each year is less than 25%. Over 40% of all adult House Sparrows die each year. The sparrows are a very spunky and hardy bird that many of which live a hard wild life. There are many dangers to the sparrow from predators like cats and hawks to poisons and now even cell phone towers pose a serious degradation to the sparrow population.
“ Bio conservation activists and experts have given a call for providing space and facilities for inviting sparrows back into human habitations so that the most ‘human-friendly’ bird will not face threat of extinction. Being classified as a general bird, sparrow doesn’t fall in the list of wildlife birds as it is not sighted much in forests....” from http://www.thehindu.com/todays-paper/tp-national/tp-andhrapradesh/cellphone-towers-posing-threat-to-survival-of-sparrows/article4531912.ece continued....“A little space has to be provided in the midst of our concrete houses. Otherwise, the sparrows will slowly disappear,” said B. Anusha, president of the Bio-Conservation Foundation (BCF). She made an appeal for providing open water pots in the premises of houses and buildings to attract sparrows. Big trees and food grains should be made available. Wooden boxes have to be provided for the convenience of these small birds.
The extinction of the dusky seaside sparrow was caused by habitat loss. “from wiki” The largest source of human-related bird death is due to glass windows, which kill 100–900 million birds a year. The next largest sources of human-caused death are hunting (100+ million), house cats (100 million), cars and trucks (50 to 100 million), electric power lines (174 million), and pesticides (67 million). Birds are also killed in large quantities by flying into communication tower guidelines, usually after being attracted by tower lights. This phenomenon is called towerkill and is responsible for 5–50 million birds deaths a year. And : in 2015, biologists working for the state of California estimated that 3,500 birds died a single solar plant in the span of a year, "many of them burned alive while flying through a part of the solar installment where air temperatures can reach 1,000 degrees Fahrenheit.
I cant' imagine a world without sparrows, yet the world is without certain ones already. Even with 150 million sparrows estimated in the United States alone, is the loss of one bird acceptable? Does the more humans that are alive mean that each one life is worth less living? Is the sparrow not important because there are many and they are so familiar? What is important to us, to continue blindly unaware of our actions on the lives of sparrows and other animals, or to become aware and adapt. The reasonable man adapts himself to the world, one famous quote says. I feel we should all try to be more reasonable.
These little guys got a personality, they are smart and have a more complex means of communication. There are up to 8 sounds in a single word.. More and more I can identify with them and the other wild life as I observer and interact.
They aren't wild as in the normal definition. They are merely emotionally independent from humans and physically too even though we feed them sometimes. And they put safety first. These guys have a totally different "and better" value system. The emphasis is basically in this order. Safety from predators or cars or any danger, then food, then communication, then sex. The communication actually centers around safety, food and sex, but takes up a lot of their time. What is different about their value system is that it ends there. there are no legal system, no technology, no jobs, or money to worry about, the earth provides their needs. In many ways I am admire their simplicity and intelligence in living, But there is more. Their pastime other than what I mentioned is something that if I could do, I wouldn't stop doing it, it looks so fun. It's called flying. and they are good at it. The remaining little time is left to take care of the feathers, bath and of course rest.
Sparrows are the closest animal in a general sense to humans. They are close in the sense that they are near us and depend on us to a degree. They have other similar traits as they form communities and they are concerned about the safety of the others as well as themselves. Sparrows could live without humans, yet they thrive with the help we provide. From nesting spots to extra food, humans play an important part in the sparrows life.
But sparrows need no technology and do not even need fire nor the means to make fire. Which the means to make fire is the oldest and most primitive of technologies. Because of the way sparrows conduct themselves, they make very little mess, only a nest and droppings which take care of themselves. The nest is biodegradable, yet sometimes can be a nuisance to humans if built in an awkward location such as a vent.
There is competition among sparrows and a great deal of their communication is built around this. They communicate about the same three basic values their lives are centered around. These are safety, food and sex. The female is submissive to the males, but the males compete among themselves. The exact details of this competition I have not fully understood, but the males will physically subdue the female when it comes to sex and the males will simultaneously compete against each other for the role of male sex partner. Their competition for food is similar, but less dramatic as they argue among themselves and then they will show physical aggression to determine the eating order.
I wonder what else we can learn from the sparrows and other animals that can benefit our outlook and way of life. Rybird
No, this is not a recipe for a bird salad., but for the attracting and maximizing the cardinal experience.
Redbirds as we call them in the south, are Northern Cardinals and are small birds that are easy to spot the male as he is bright red or orange. That is why we call them redbirds. They are hardy creature, lively and sing and are generally happy. Because people are attracting them to the backyard with feeders the population is no longer in decline. Reportedly it was in decline along with many birds due to the decline in gardening.
Here are some tips for a good experience attracting and keeping redbirds.
A bird feeder is one of the easiest ways to attract many birds, and cardinals love sunflower seeds. Just the sunflower seeds along will keep them around. They do eat a variety of other seeds that are found in bird mixes and they eat flowers from trees like the Crepe Myrtle and the buds of the Tallow Tree. They also eat the red berries from the Holly bush. These red berries is what initially brought them around our home. They need caratonoids for the red color. Caratonoids is the pigment found in many plants they eat. The female redbird is not bright red like the male, but is a lovely brown and olive more earthy color theme that is very beautiful closer to them.
Redbirds love to eat off the ground, but I suggest a raised platform that is a couple feet from the ground to protect from insects, mold, cats and other hazards. This platform should be a surface that isn't very slick as they need a grip for their claws, so a very small wooden table would do as in an end table.
I use a metal frame with wood insert end table about 16” high that the top is about 10 by 12 inches and they love it. Just sprinkle about a half cup of seed twice a day for a few redbirds and watch them be happy.
Other birds as sparrows like this feeding arrangement too, but many birds such as the chickadee and finches prefer a hanging feeder. But if you are a redbird fan, you should be able to improve your experience by feeding them on a platform. They love to have other objects nearby such as lawn chairs, however there is a danger of their claws getting caught in the webbing and causing serious injury.
To maintain the feeding area, the feeder should be washed at least once a week to prevent mildew and mites. A mild soap and bleach and strong rinse will keep the mildew down and rid it from any mites. Also the sunflower shells fall to the ground and if not cleared away will pile up and eventually start composting. I suggest moving the table, or feeder before this as mites, bugs and mold will otherwise accumulate. Other than stocking the feeder, and keeping it and the surrounding area clean is keeping it away from cats and hawks. To determine the best spot, simply look around and avoid areas close to thick bushes cats hide and wide open areas that hawks can swoop down and safety is too far for the birds to get shelter.
Birds have wings and know how to use them, so this isn't necessary, nor is a bird bath, but I do suggest both if either, simply because then they have all their needs met in one area. Keep the bird bath clean and fresh, and out of hot sun as the sun can heat the water up to dangerous temperatures for the birds.
Clean it the same way as the feeder with soap and water, or mild bleach solution to kill any algea or mildew and thoroughly rinse.
Finally for the best experience with the vibrant redbird, is to get a camera , take some pics and share them with your friends. Not only will they enjoy it, but by looking at the pictures you can often see potential health problems as they arise. One might be an injury that can't be noticed while they are flying about, or damage to feathers from mites. This can go along ways to avoiding any serious problems.
The last suggestion for now is simply to be somewhat consistent in feeding them as they are the first and last birds to eat, eating early in the morning and late in the evening right before dark.
For more about the Northern Cardinal including sounds, photos and videos, see Cardinal Delights at:
The bird is the word.
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Learning from the animals.originally posted 8/10/2014 Rybird
Many times I have seen or heard humans comparing humans to animals, often in the context of criminals or people that have gone against the acceptance of society. I see or hear phrases such as “They are no better than a animal.” or simply, “They are animals.” To better my understanding of animals, I have watched the local animals with an open and thoughtful mind. I have discovered that there is no inferiority of the animals to humans, nor is there any inferiority of humans to animals. Animals have social order with laws and consequences just like humans do, yet their motives seem to be more innocent. Perhaps we notice humans that have deviated outside the acceptable behavior that we believe should exist and cannot tell very often that animals also deviate in what many humans call a sin. Not to go into a religious commentary, but the definition of sin that I am using here is the one of doing something that is not approved of by the being committing said act. With that said, I think animals do not perpetrate ill motivated behavior unless there is an illness or disease at work.
Animals need to survive and nearly all of the behavior that I have observed is centered around this. Whether eating, sleeping, or procreating, animals behaviors are geared toward accommodating their basic needs. Going outside of my own observations for a moment, I know that giraffes will fight to the death over territory. It is not just the territory at risk, but what the territory affords and the alternate territory does not provide, which is the means for survival. It is not a fight for a better waterhole, but having a waterhole at all.
I have observed the birds form communities and families depending on the species and rely on others for increasing their chances at survival. Most animals are easily observed as social animals, although some orders such as insect have a variety of patterns and it can be hard to see any socialization. Ants are easy to see that they have a community, but dragonflies seem more solitary. This does not change their motives for living and how they behave as individuals. It is still motivated by the basic needs that insure survival.
It is now easy for me to understand that animals are not inferior in any way to humans, but some things such as religion and worship seem hard to identify in animals as their communication differs enough from ours to impede that understanding. However, turning that around, I can see that religion in humans is just as much about territory in this context as anything else. It is not about geographic territory, even though that is involved as it is about social territory. It is about grouping humans with similar values together through a belief system which is incorporated in the pertaining religion. Since I cannot communicate on that level yet with animals, I do not know what their internal or social belief system is. It very well could be a belief in a power greater than themselves, or that some believe and others do not like humans do, or that it is either completely different or non-existent. But I do understand animals have the same basic instincts and will to survive as humans do.
I can see that each species of animals has a unique way among themselves to communicate, yet each can understand some communications of other species. For example the cardinals sing and chirp complex high frequency sound phrases to each other, while the sparrow do the same. But the cardinals and the sparrows are not affected by each others communication as it is in a different language. Then there are universal languages such as yells, screams, and calls that alert or warn all species that could be affected by a threat.
Animals showing compassion is easy to see with dogs, since their compassion is often geared towards humans but others are very caring about their offspring or members of their immediate community. It is simply short sighted to compare a human criminal to an animal, or even groups of warring humans because animals are as innocent as the most socially healthy humans.
I will continue to watch and interact with the animals to hopefully learn more. I also find peace in knowing that animals are not lessor creatures than humans. I enjoy time with the animals, or as Mark Twain put it in Eve's diary, “I couldn't get back home; it was too far and turning cold; but I found some tigers and nestled in amongst them and was most adorably comfortable, and their breath was sweet and pleasant, because they live on strawberries. “
Now I must go outside so the birds can watch me.
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